However hard it is sometimes, we have to learn to let things go. People panic when things don’t go according to plan or if someone leaves us, betrays us or hurts us, but this is a natural instinct; we have to protect ourselves. This is our defence mechanism.
Fear of the unknown will stop us from moving forward and leaves us trapped with bad situations. With the well known, we feel that we are familiar with this state and we know how to handle it. Therefore, we are unable to make the right decision to step out from the current setting; you chose to stay. Your fear is greater than your reality sense, stuck where you are, rather than step into a new position, which represents uncertainty.
“You can’t have a better tomorrow if you’re still thinking about yesterday.” Charles F Kettering
Learning to let go allows us to concentrate on our future and invest our energy in it. We waste a lot of our time and effort going over and over about what we could have done better or what we have done wrong. But actually, we should be focusing on the future goals, which eventually will make us feel well and stronger again.
“If you are unhappy with anything — your mother, your father, your husband, your wife, your job, your boss, your car – whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. You’ll find that when you’re free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.” – Tina Turner
The secret is; don’t try and do it all at once, take your time to reflect on your sidetracks and make a step-by-step gradual move forward. Let your instinct guide you that is sometimes better than your intellect.
Small achievable goals will give you the success and accomplishment feeling. This will also motivate you to carry on with your aspiration.