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The fear of being on your own…

There are different kinds of fear that we have to deal with on a daily basis. For some of us, one of the biggest fears is being left on our own.  

Have you ever felt that even though you are surrounded by people, everyone chattering, laughing and having a good time, yet it seems like a distant motion picture that just echoes in your head?  Inside emptiness and loneliness are eating you up, and all you want to do is scream until you are noticed. Waiting for a rescuer, to take you out from this crowded place where you are so alone.

I little ironic isn’t it? However, many people feel this way, isolated and unable to express the way they feel. Uncomfortable or rather embarrassed to talk to anyone about your feelings and slowly you become detached from the world. You develop this fear of being on your own and that you are never going to be able to find your soul mate/partner/friend.

This of course creates a problem of disconnection form our society, which doesn’t help when humans are social beings. We do need to talk and we do need to express our feelings in some ways. Preferably to another human, however some animals are known to be a good companion and assist with loneliness in a non verbal way.
I know all about this as I do talk to my dogs. This one particular dog that I had knew exactly when to comfort me when I was sad or crying. I could tell her all about my feelings. It’s lovely but still kind of separates us from the real world.  I’m also in the process to introduce equine assisted learning from autumn but I will tell you about this at a later stage…

Even if you have children, it seems a daunting experience to be on your own and be responsible for all your decision.

Here are some tips on how you can make yourself feel better about this:Watch Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download

  • Arrange some social gathering- it doesn’t need to be a large party, simply just try and get out of the house. If you can’t do that because you have children, then invite a couple of friends around.
  • If you are working, probably you feel that you are socialising enough at work and you just want some peace and quiet, however going out or having friends around is different from work.
  • Making a list of your task around the house will help you focus on what’s need dealing with. Make small steps, tick one thing off your list at a time. No rush, the jobs will wait for you.
  • If you have children, then teach them slowly to help out around the house. Some light chores, then you will have less to do and more quality time.
  • Let go, what’s the worst that can happen? Enjoy your small happy times; focus on the good things in life.
  • Last but not least, there is plenty of financial help and support available; you just need to ask around. You will be surprised, I know I was.  

Loneliness does not come from having no people around you but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you. – Carl Jung

 Once you have overcome the fear of being on your own – whatever the reason this happened to you – make a note in your “Big me up” notebook. This is a real achievement and bravery.

 

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