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Disbelief – the process of trying to find answers

When I went through some tough times, what I found the most difficult is that my brain just could not accept the facts of was happening to me. I had such a disbelief of the situation that I kept on thinking it will be back to normal soon. I will soon forget about everything and we will have a great family life again.

We tend to forget about all the bad that had happened to us and only remember the lovely moments, which is an illusion and confusing our thoughts even more. Soon I realised, that I’m just kidding myself. My life is falling apart and it’s never going to be the same again.

Still as part of the process of my life falling apart, I tried to find some answers but to be honest it was a waste of time. I’ll tell you why; we get hooked up in our past and trying to fix what isn’t fixable. Holding onto the last string and it’s exhausting. You feel washed out and you are far away from reality, which you’re not noticing currently as you are fighting with your last strength to turn back the time, to be happy again. You might find that harsh reality hits you and you will have to accept the way things are, let go of the past; it’s time to start a new life.

You might be at cross roads and have similar dilemmas. However, I can tell you right now; what’s the point wasting your time and effort on something that probably never going to happen anyway? You should focus on the future and finding the way to get a new meaning of life.

Here are some tips on how to do this:

  • Accept what happened rather than fight it
  • Learn to let go
  • Asking for help is not a weakness
  • Create some space for you to do things that makes you happy
  • Trust the process
  • Find a new purpose in life
  • Things happen for a reason, so you might have new opportunities coming your way


If you listen, keep your eyes open and try and be receptive for opportunities. You might not even recognise them first but if you are more self-aware you will learn to notice exciting things coming your way.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of wisdom.” Aristotle

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